If a woman doesn’t take you seriously as a partner, there are a few signs that can be noticed
She is sweet, affectionate, you spend time together, but you have a feeling that something is not right. You don’t understand, is it just her communication style or are you an option for her for a while? If a woman does not consider you as a serious partner, it can be noticed by several signs. Life coach Vitaliy Kursik told RBC-Ukraine how to understand that a woman does not see you as a future life partner.
You are not her priority
According to the expert, you can see it in a woman’s behaviour. You are constantly waiting for her to make time for you.
“If her schedule is always overloaded and meetings with you only happen when it’s convenient for her, it’s a sign that you’re not in first place,” the coach explains.
She’s not letting you into her life
You know almost nothing about her plans, friends or family. If you’ve been together for months and you still don’t know her inner circle, it’s a red flag.
“But don’t jump to conclusions. It can also happen that a woman keeps her distance because she needs more time to start trusting you. It is worth discussing this issue frankly and calmly,” advises the specialist.
She avoids emotional intimacy
Physical contact can be, but when it comes to deep conversations about feelings and the future – she shuts down or turns the topic into a joke.
She’s giving mixed signals
One minute she’s interested, the next she’s cold. She may write a gentle message and then disappear for a few days.
“This is a game of ‘warm-cold’, which often indicates that she is not sure of her feelings or just doesn’t want anything serious,” warns Vitaly Kursik.
She’s not making plans for a future with you
When you talk about going on holiday together, or even just a weekend away, she avoids being specific. If she does agree, she is reluctant.
She keeps looking for other people
If she actively sits on dating sites, has many “friends” on social networks with whom she flirts, or simply says: “I’m not ready for a serious relationship yet” – this is a sign that you are not her main candidate.
What to do?
- Honestly ask yourself if you are happy with this format of the relationship.
- Do not justify her behaviour (“she is just afraid of a serious relationship” – no, she is not afraid, she is just not ready to build one with you).
- If you want seriousness – discuss it.
- If the answers are vague – draw conclusions.
“And the main thing: you don’t have to prove that you are worthy of a serious relationship. If a woman does not see you as a partner for the future – it does not mean that you are not worthy of love. It means that she is simply not the one you need,” summarises Vitaly Kursik.
