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If, however, the relationship has become a burden, you should consider breaking up
The moment when something breaks definitively between two people often doesn’t come suddenly. It’s not always a quarrel or infidelity. Sometimes – it is silence, indifference or fatigue that does not go away. How to understand that the “point of no return” has already been passed and the relationship can not be saved? What signs indicate that the relationship can not be saved, told for RBC-Ukraine Life Coach Vitaly Kursik.
In every relationship there are crises. Somewhere a frank conversation, work on yourself and compromises are enough.
“But there are times when it’s worth honestly admitting: everything that could be fixed has already been fixed. Further – only agonising prolongation of the inevitable,” the expert explains.
How do you realise that you have reached the point of no return?
Lack of trust
When you are constantly checking your partner’s phone, catching them (or yourself) in lies, and every conversation feels like a game of chess – this is not a partnership, but psychological exhaustion.
“Trust is the foundation of a relationship, and if there’s no trust left, everything hangs on just the fear of change,” emphasises the coach.
You are no longer a team
You used to work together, support each other. Now you play by your own rules.
“Important decisions are made without discussion, and there is no point in talking about feelings at all. You are no longer ‘we’, but two separate worlds that happen to live under the same roof,” adds Vitaly Kursik.
Physical or emotional aggression
If a relationship brings pain – it’s not love. If you are constantly devalued, humiliated, manipulated feelings or physically abused – it’s not a crisis, it’s the end.
“Apologising doesn’t fix the situation if it happens over and over again,” emphasises the specialist.
Lack of intimacy
Lack of emotional intimacy, common themes, interest in each other is a telltale sign that the relationship is fading.
“If you are more interested in other people than in your own partner – honestly admit to yourself why this happened,” the expert advises.
You are not holding on to your partner, but to memories or fear
Sometimes it feels like: “We’ve been through so much together, you can’t just give up.” But a relationship is not a debt to be repaid. Holding on just because of the past or fear of being alone is no reason to stay in an unhappy union.
If you recognise yourself in these points – you may have already passed the point of no return. You can only restore what is still living.
“If, however, the relationship has become a burden, it is worth considering breaking up. How to do it ecologically for yourself and your partner? How to stop clinging to the illusion and start building a new life? Answers to these questions can be found together with a coach. The main thing is not to be afraid to look at the situation honestly and choose the path that will make you happier,” summarises Vitaly Kursik.
