The expert notes that in a relationship it is important to respect your partner’s personal boundaries
A relationship is an interaction between two people in love that requires a lot of effort and understanding. Partners should respect each other’s personal boundaries. If you notice that you make a lot of efforts to improve your relationship and please your beloved person, and you get nothing in return, you should think about whether you need this person in your life.
This is the first warning sign that it’s better to think about breaking up. American psychologist Mark Travers explained on Psychology Today what three signs indicate that your relationship has no future.
Why partners should respect each other’s personal boundaries
There is a term in psychology called “relationship standards”. These standards are different for everyone, but usually they should be similar in a couple, in particular they should have the same values, outlook on life and taste preferences. It is equally important that both partners equally respect each other’s personal boundaries and allow freedom of choice.
However, if one of the lovers makes certain sacrifices and tries by harming himself to please his partner, it indicates that the beloved person neglects you. Such a relationship is doomed to break and over time the situation can only worsen and develop into a toxic or even abusive relationship.
“Personal insecurities, such as low self-esteem, often cause people to lower their standards significantly, fearing that because their standards are too high, their loved ones will leave them,” the expert notes.
Travers encourages valuing oneself and not neglecting one’s needs. At the beginning of an affair, it is important to build clear boundaries of what is allowed, so that the partner understands what boundary he or she is not allowed to cross.
Three signs that indicate your relationship has no future
You are constantly looking for excuses for your partner
If you regularly explain to yourself or others the unacceptable behaviour of your significant other, this is a red flag. You were hoping for a caring, attentive partner, but instead you have a person who ignores your needs, disregards your feelings or even hurts you.
Despite this, you find excuses for his actions, look for compromises and try to ignore obvious problems. Undoubtedly, mutual understanding is important in a relationship, but when only one partner is trying in a relationship, such a union ceases to bring joy and pleasure.
You are waiting for your partner to change
One of the most common pitfalls in relationships is the belief that one will change over time. For the sake of this illusion, many people turn a blind eye to lies, indifference or even disrespect. You may make excuses for your partner, hoping that he or she will change due to your efforts or simply over the years.
“Instead of recognising who their partner really is now, they focus on potential and invest time in beliefs and illusions about the person they love,” the psychologist points out.
But you can change only by your own desire, and if a person does not want to do it yourself, your expectations will remain only expectations. It is important to honestly answer yourself the question: how long are you willing to tolerate such an attitude and whether it is necessary for you.
Only you are trying to save the relationship
Any strong and healthy relationship is built on the equal efforts of two people. If one partner does everything to save the relationship, and the other does not show initiative, it destroys the relationship between lovers. In such a situation, the person who puts all the energy into the relationship gradually gets exhausted, feels unhappy and unappreciated.
And the indifferent partner is alienated even more. The expert advises in this case to pay attention to their own needs, to learn to value themselves and not to waste time on a relationship in which there is no reciprocity. Only those relationships where there is equality, care and a common desire to develop the relationship can become really happy and long-lasting.
“Sacrifices are necessary to maintain a healthy relationship where both partners sometimes put the other’s needs first. But when only one person sacrifices without reciprocity, it can drain mental health, leading to resentment and loss of identity,” the expert concluded.
